Importance

Just under like - five minutes ago, I chanced upon iaremunyee's website linked from her instagram linked from her buzzfeed open letter linked from Facebook's random articles.

I love her relatable way of writing the open letter to sgag about the inconsiderate flight neighbour. This then led me to a bit of stalking since she lives so "near" me (sg-kl). I vaguely remember perhaps reading one of her blog posts in the past but not paying that much attention to the writer. However, her entry on the Unfaithful in her life really stumped me all over again.

It wasn't that I was cheated on, but rather this:

I don’t resent you for all that you’ve done – for all that leaving, all that hurt, all that closure that you didn’t offer.
It doesn’t matter anymore that you didn’t want me.
I just wish you hadn’t ruined me for everyone else.

My mind drifted away in the middle of the post, like it always does when I'm trying to concentrate. I start to draw parallels to the whole Amos Yee saga. Random, but yes it happened.

I wonder why people feel the need to have him persecuted, to have him put behind bars, or to imprint the physical stamp on his face. Did his actions hurt you so much, so much so that you couldn't sleep at night without crying? That you couldn't eat without feeling like you needed to throw up? That you recoil at the thought of meeting someone new just because that would inadvertently lead you to feel that mind-numbing heartache after you break off all contact and have no one to blame on but yourself, although rationally you know it isn't really your fault.

I mean, did Amos Yee scar you?

I almost wish we had some emotional police to handcuff closure out of thin air.

You might say that "Oh this is a personal issue but Amos Yee is a national issue". Come on, get real.
If every other person you meet is experiencing this kind of heartache, won't the numbers qualify it to be a national issue?

I'm not saying that we should really create some form of personal police, but rather, putting things into another perspective. For what? I don't exactly know. Maybe so you can loosen up on such issues? Or maybe to shift your focus to more important things in your life, like making sure the people around you are alright. Making sure that your children aren't crying into their pillows dead in the night when you don't know. Making sure that you're not hurting someone else with your selfish actions.

Maybe.